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Helga Hayse

Helga Hayse educates people on the role that money plays in family relationships. Her latest book Money, Love & Legacy: Conversations That Matter Between Generations is about the urgency for adult children and their parents to open the intergenerational dialogue they need to have about financial, legal, emotional, medical and end-of-life issues before it’s too late. She recounts her personal experience with transforming the pain of her own unfinished business into regenerative legacy between herself and her parents.

Her previous book “Don’t Worry about a Thing, Dear” - Why Women Need Financial Intimacy helps women understand why education about marital finances is vital for their protection if marriage ends.

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Coaches on the Edge say you can’t take it with you. You can try…

elizabeth: Andy Warhol, who was one the leading figures in pop art period until his death in 1987, left over 600 boxes and a shipping (should be called a shopping ) container of stuff that archivists have six years to sift through and catalogue. I was flabbergasted (haven't use that word in a couple decades and for good reason) and it got me thinking - what do I need to get rid of before my remains are thrown in the faces of people who have pissed me off royally during my life. First stop: Crawford TX.

All my journals are the first thing that comes to mind. Oprah wants hers burnt when she dies. I will petition Oprah's estate to throw mine in the funeral pyre also. I don't want anyone to read how pathetic life was at times. Okay, I, being a drama queen in waiting, took overreacting and turned it into an art form. No need to read about that...right?

Laurie: Well, I would be mortified if the items in my "regifting" stash ever came to the light of day. I'm as appreciative as the next gal, but c' AARP calculator? Slippers that clean the floor while you wear them? A worm ball (don't even ask!)? These things are crying out somebody's name but it's not mine. I'm going to find them a nice home somewhere but I would prefer that the donors not know about it. Thus, I would also request that the neatly-categorized list accompanying these treasures be destroyed. Who gave me what (so I don't give it back to them), when I got it, and the next lucky recipient. Don't let them fool ya...thoughtful regifting is not easy.

elizabeth: I would also toss without remorse all the different sizes I have in underwear, bras, trousers and shirts. Since I don't wear dresses, no one will be able to hold them up and in a mocking voice declare that "I wouldn't have been caught dead in shoulder pads even in the 1980s." Well, sister, all I can say is that I never had big hair in my life. Shall we compare pictures? No, I think I will go out and buy all new clothes in a very respectable size - Two. People for miles around will be impressed about how none of my clothes had tomato stains, not one elastic waist in the bunch (and just for the record - I own not a one of them) and in the end some nice tween will have herself a fabulous new wardrobe.

Laurie: How about some of the over-the-counter stuff in the medicine cabinet? Preparation H which doesn't remove the bags under your eyes by the way, a left-over bottle of Fleet from my colonoscopy five years ago (when do I think I'll be needing that?), Band Aids so old that any pretense of adhesiveness has long left the medicine cabinet, an eye patch (?), a vibrating razor (it sounded like a good idea when I bought it), a tube of Vagisil that is so dry it needs its own tube of Vagisil, and the list goes on. And don't even get me started on stuff in the refrigerator!

elizabeth: And then there all those pictures of me during my awkward period - from seventh grade to...

Laurie: Hey, elizabeth, how would you like a purple suede photo album with a big peace sign on the front? The first page says "Happy Birthday, Laurie. Fill ‘er up!" but you can cut that out.

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