id=

From the Book Store

Click to see the full book store and all of the recommended books from Best Boomer Towns.

About the Author

image

Dr. Barton Goldsmith, Ph.D.

Named by Cosmopolitan Magazine as one of the country’s top relationship experts, award winning psychotherapist, syndicated columnist and radio host, Barton Goldsmith, Ph.D., is an internationally recognized counselor, author and speaker. He has appeared on CNN, Good Morning America, Fox & Friends, CBS News, NBC News, Beauty and The Geek and The Greg Behrendt Show. In addition, numerous radio shows and national magazines have interviewed him. Most recently, Dr. Goldsmith served as the national spokesperson for the Mars Candy My M&M’s Treasured Moments Challenge.

Since 2002, his weekly column, Emotional Fitness, which is syndicated by Scripps-Howard News Service, runs in The Ventura County Star, The Chicago Sun-Times, The Orange County Register, The Detroit News, The Cincinnati Post, The San Diego Union-Tribune and over 150 other newspapers giving him a readership in the millions. In addition, his popular monthly business column has appeared in over 200 other publications. Dr. Goldsmith also hosts a weekly radio show on the most award-winning station in Southern California, KCLU/NPR, with 80,000 listeners in Los Angeles, Ventura and Santa Barbara.

The Author's web site

Best Boomer Towns Columns

Top 10 Tips for Dating After 40

1. Finding a mate is like finding a job. It is something you have to work at everyday until you're successful.

2. Ask everyone you know. On average we all know about 250 other people, one or two of them are going to know someone else who is single and looking. Just ask you may be very pleasantly surprised.

3. Have your morning coffee at Starbucks. If you're out and about your chances of meeting someone are about 100% better than you'd have sitting at home in your fuzzy slippers.

4. Use the internet. According to AARP, 41% of today's internet users are 55 and older. You don't have to use a dating site (though I know many people who have been successful at it). You can meet like-minded individuals in one of the millions of chat rooms that are available in cyber space. If you do use a dating site - do it wisely. Some people don't tell the truth about themselves.


5. Take a class. Imagine getting your degree and finding a mate at the same time. It's a great way to meet people who are striving to improve themselves and who you already share an interest with.

6. Join local organizations. Rotary, The Sierra Club, and religious groups are just some of the places where you can meet other singles. Even if Mr. or Ms. Right isn't in the group you go to remember that someone may know the perfect person.

7. Go to reunions. I have know quite a few people who met and fell in love with old high school and college pals decades later. It's amazing how strong those old school ties can be.

8. Try singles events. Invest your time and money in a singles cruise or weekend getaway. If nothing else you'll get a vacation out of the deal and probably make a friend.

9. Go to business activities. Conferences, parties and meetings are places where you can meet appropriate singles that you already have something in common with.

10. Go shopping. Loads of singles are at the market between 5:00 and 6:30 shopping for dinner. If you see a nice looking person picking out a lonely pork chop, ask them a question or give them a recipe suggestion. It could lead to dinner for two.

I know that dating in your 40's and beyond is a challenge, but the good news is that you are at a time in your life when you and your prospective mates know what you want. Remember that the only way you'll meet someone is by putting yourself out there. So get off the couch and drive over to the book store to see who's reading the latest novels, they could be your next big romance.

 

 

Bookmark and Share

image

Related Columns

The Very Best Money-Saving Bargains For Boomers

Boomers Cash In as Bull Market Aids Exodus From Workforce

Simplified Smartphones For Boomers And Seniors

How the ‘Sandwich Generation’ Can Build a Better Budget

Baby Boomers Can Turn Photo Hobby into Extra Cash with Scoopshot

Boomers Need to Talk About Long-Term Care

Baby Boomers An Important Force Driving Health Care Reform

Caring for Elderly Parents From Afar?

Del Webb 2013 Baby Boomer Survey

Baby Boomers Make Terrific Entrepreneurs