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Helga Hayse

Helga Hayse educates people on the role that money plays in family relationships. Her latest book Money, Love & Legacy: Conversations That Matter Between Generations is about the urgency for adult children and their parents to open the intergenerational dialogue they need to have about financial, legal, emotional, medical and end-of-life issues before it’s too late. She recounts her personal experience with transforming the pain of her own unfinished business into regenerative legacy between herself and her parents.

Her previous book “Don’t Worry about a Thing, Dear” - Why Women Need Financial Intimacy helps women understand why education about marital finances is vital for their protection if marriage ends.

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Younger Men vs. Older Men. Is There Really a Contest?

elizabeth: I hate, despise and resent the term "cougar." Hate it with a passion. I Googled to find out who came up with this asinine label, and this was their answer: Late 80's in the dressing room of the Vancouver Canucks Hockeyteam, they called older single women that came to their games cougars. Okay, now I have to boycott Vancouver. I wasn't going to go there any time soon but I am taking a stand.

Laurie: It's starting to get cold up there anyway. Just don't go boycotting an island.

elizabeth: Why do women have to be labeled by whom they date? I rarely dated older men when I was single and I blame that on Harrison Ford (he kinda smoldered and had that earring thing happening), Robert DeNiro (too many gangster flicks - I was always afraid he'd off me if I disagreed but he was sexy) and Cary Grant (I think he was dead by the time I thought he was way too fine to ignore). They didn't make themselves available to date. Me. I know. How unfair. But young guys did and I was just as happy to return the favor. But did I think I was gutting them and ripping out their innards when I was feeling a little naughty? Please.

Laurie: Wow, I don't know what kind of dates you went on (I did once date a guy who caught muskrats and I believe there was some gutting involved in that)! I like to think I was adding to the worldly experience of these young studs. Showing them the finer pleasures that would assist them with pleasing their future women (or men - who knew? Who cared?) and saving them many hard-earned, heartbreaking experiences - yeah, that's the story and I'm sticking to it.

elizabeth: I did date some guy who was 15 years younger than me. Let me tell you this - it was not because he had his pulse on world affairs or knew the difference between a Monet or a Manet. Nor did I really expect him to speak. Why ruin a good thing? My husband is six years younger than me and I did not marry him because he made me feel young. I was quite capable of making myself feel young and vital and sassy. Plus I never think about the age difference. I am more concerned that he doesn't think that The Beatles were the best band in the world. Oh, yeah, John Lennon never called either.

Laurie: I feel your pain, girlfriend. I got tired of waiting for Elvis to discover me in my small town and finally took down the many photos and posters that plastered my purple bedroom wall. I think I finally realized I was on the edge of robbing the proverbial cradle when while watching a recap of JFK's assassination, my Date of the Day said something that made me realize he wasn't even born in the 60's. Yikes! As soon as that date was finished, I bid him a fond farewell. No sense in wasting a perfectly good evening.

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